| 3 MIN READ | Strangers & Hope

I was here 11 years ago. Nothing much has changed since then, except the replacement of every last atom in my body.
I step out of the same decrepit building into an underpass intersection. It remains populated by the foreboding side of Lagos. The structure behind me with the vibe of an Indian tier-3 city government office is the headquarters of an African billionaire. His disregard for superficial appearances and attention to essential details reveals its own kind of native wisdom. What matters, unfolds imperceptibly.
The sun has set. I walk away from the underpass towards the start of the flyover. The sidewalk is vacant. I pause near the entrance to a dimly lit Diner. Flip between Uber & Bolt to find a taxi for the short ride back to the hotel.
The minutes go by. Both apps ask me to wait. Time dilates as a clutch of cars hovering the streets around me all refuse a ride. Black jacket, laptop bag slung on shoulder, thick wad of local currency a bulging ransom in my pockets. I am surrounded by the whip and whirr of dragonflies. Conspicuous & stranded, like a neon sign on a moonless night. The hotel limousine at 90,000 Naira for 8 hours was not such a bad idea. Stray pedestrians pass by. I don’t stand a chance with any of them in a fist fight. Not even the thickset woman.
The Car Ride
Two cars exit the Diner. I stop to ask each if they are headed my way. They both depart with vague disinterest. The third one is Frank in a Toyota Tacoma. He is heading elsewhere but will give me a ride. Works for the World Bank. Had stints in London & Washington before returning home. Said he noticed me waiting and trying to hail a ride. Not the best idea in this neighbourhood.
He wants to start a business of his own and has been thinking about LPG distribution. I summarize it as a monopoly supplier on one side, rising demand on the other, and a tight ship in between to keep the cash register ringing as long as people need to put food on the table. He talks about something much wider. Nigeria. Population growth, rising unemployment. His purpose as an entrepreneur is to do something useful for his country. May never make an obscene amount of money. But will sleep well.
We arrive at the hotel. He waits for the guard to open the gate and let me in before driving away. I receive an email from him a few hours later. He would like to meet again to discuss his business ideas more deeply.
We meet at the coffee shop the next evening. Map out where his skills could address local challenges. There is an idealistic simplicity in his intent. I feel it in the conversation. He is 62. At an age when many are ready to slow down, he looks like he is just beginning.
The Salon
The next morning, I am unable to reset the temperature controls in the room air-conditioning. By noon it gets extremely cold. I step down to the terrace lounge for some sun before my next round of meetings. There is a young girl reading a book titled ‘Managing your Emotions’. I tell her that’s a hard goal to achieve. Emotions aren’t the problem. The identity that drowns in them is. Nothing to manage — just stop clinging to the one who is drowning. We talk about mortality and awareness. She is intrigued and amused.
Her name is Sonia, a dual graduate in the unlikely combination of psychology and marine navigation. Her family lives down south. She runs a small cleaning business and comes here occasionally for a quiet read on a slow workday afternoon. Wants to start an upmarket Salon and rope her younger sister in to help. One in Victoria Island to start with but will scale up to cover select residential neighbourhoods in the city like Lekki, Eko & Akoyi. She is dressed in a flowing summer yellow dress with a multi coloured bandana. A casually stylish brand ambassador for her new venture. We talk about the Salon. I ask her to run me through the numbers. She shares a few scenarios. Is confident of the service, searching for the capital. Has a friend who could lend her the money, but wants to be independent.
The connection
I send a message about her to Frank as we speak. He agrees to meet her. I joke about having covered both emotion and ambition in one wandering chat. She is still processing how all this is unfolding. I exchange their contacts and leave. She will work on a proposal and share it with Frank.
Sonia’s email follows two days later. Frank likes the draft proposal. Discussions progress towards loan options and lending rates. She needs a guarantor. Sonia is talking to her friend to get that in place. Someone who can repay the loan if the Salon falters. I come face to face with how difficult the last mile is. Small loans can disappear without adequate collateral. Numbers collide with idealism until they arrive at their own equilibrium. I see the weight on her young shoulders.
But the wheels have begun turning. Though the business I was here for did not work out, a stranger chose to look out for me and I did the same for another.
As I drive past the shanty towns approaching the airport, I lean briefly against the window and feel the music seeping into the moment.


Lovely blog! Really enjoyed the “chanceness” of both your interactions
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beautiful sir, Life has its own way, and it is always strange. Nothing happens as per our definition, but somethings, happens beyond our imagination.
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Hi Anand
How nice….you are instrumental in Sonia meeting Frank & starting her business…as it is said in Gujarati … its a work of ” punya ” , one does unconsciously. Loved reading this Regards Madhavi
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Enjoyed reading this piece as always. Thanks for sharing. Your altruism is evident in your action.
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What a human and humane experience you have had! So lovely!
Love this: Emotions aren’t the problem. The identity that drowns in them is.
Thank you for writing!
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Anand – so you did well in Nigeria after all!
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Your writing is utterly singular and beautiful, Anand. You capture and evoke emotion like no one else i know – Satyam
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There is mention of you.. that you are as good a conversationalist as your Dad if not better
Plus that u hv imbibed / inculcated charisma from your Grand Dad my first employer
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Arun . Nice seeing your post. This is N R Kumar Anand’s mama
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I enjoyed reading every bit of it. Super!! Felt as though I was a part of your experience in Lagos😊
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Excellent writing like always.
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I was really moved by that sense of being ‘unseen’ at the start—that lonely feeling of being invisible in the dark. It made the ‘kismet’ of Frank stopping feel so much more powerful. It’s a beautiful reminder that even when we feel like ghosts, there’s a rhythm at work that can lift us out and weave everything together for good. It doesn’t always happen that way in life, so it was lovely to read a moment where it did.
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you describe your lagos trip like a script writer. I felt as if I was myself standing outside Lagos airport. Your business deal didn’t fructify may be blessing in disguise. Somehow , I don’t believe honest buisness deals are possible in that country full of corruption , cheating & thuggery . Incidentally , I have personally spent three years there . Your other meetings are very interestingly & beautifully described by you. When I landed at Lagos it was 7.94 naira to a dollar & 100 naira to a dollar when I left . I am not sure about today. Nigeria is an excellent country for politicians & rich people. Ordinary citizens extremely poor & suffering.
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leggerti e’ sempre molto piacevole , grazie Ananda
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Wonderful as always . I always believe that there are connections from our past lives which makes us cross the path and maybe repay few of our obligations in the earlier lives and to get for whatever good we might have done or maybe for the future .As it is said :अयम निज: परो वेती गन्ना लघुचेतसम!!उदार चरितनाम वसुधएवकुटुंबकम् !!🙏🙏
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Good morning Anand, what a lovely way to start my day, reading about your experience in Lagos— serendipity and paying it forward— beautiful 👍🏽👍🏽 thank you 🙏🏽 🙏🏽
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Excellent! aptly put about a place where still people get vaccination before visit. But thanks to promoter for exploring new venture and creating new hope.
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It’s very emotional and shows again life plays its own game and most of the time or I guess even always it’s part of the path …. 🙏
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“But the wheels have begun turning. Though the business I was here for did not work out, a stranger chose to look out for me and I did the same for another.”
👆This line says it all.
A grey country, some would even say ‘decrepit’. But even there are veins of hope and ambition – the stuff of survival which gives ordinary lives a reason to live. A traveling catalyst, brings 2 of them together. And who knows what may emerge from it😊
A person who is interested in everything around him as he navigates through the world, and is not shy of engaging with it – is never bored.
Great tale, Anand! I never tire of reading your vignettes.
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👍 🤗A classic case of how travel expands horizons. That connect us to the karmic chain between humans. In turn, we create new links. Propelled by a genuine desire to help our fellow beings. No strings attached.
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Beautifully written. Feels like something larger quietly moving people into place
Once we start noticing these patterns, it’s hard to unsee them.
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Ananda – my dear “happy” cousin – It took me much longer than 3 mins to read and grasp the depth of this – such beautiful moments of joy and randomness of them is inescapable in your prose. It reminded me of John Lennon who famously said “life happens when you are busy doing other things” so apt in this context 👏👏 bravo my dear Anand Loved it
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How wonderful that you were able to share in the circle of helping. Kudos Ananda. May Sonia and her business thrive.
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“Emotions aren’t the problem. The identity that drowns in them is. Nothing to manage — just stop clinging to the one who is drowning.”
Beautiful, and filled with truth!
Thanks for sharing. Hope you are well. 🙂
Andrea
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Anand your writing is an art form in itself. In the daily grind of life they come as a momentary window into the timeless. It is almost like all moments converge into your words and an opening of the underlying universe exposes itself.
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A down to earth experience you shared Anand in a far-away land bonding connection with strangers!! Very interesting to read this humane story!!!
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Wonderful, Ananda, Just Wonderful!
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Comfort
Nice
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I enjoyed this piece. The theme was consistent. Travel invites randomness. Perhaps not. People are met that are helpful, and you pay it forward. We have a common humanity which when noticed destroys ‘otherness.’ You’re helpfulness was appreciated and provided you with meaning based on your kindness. Travel is mind opening, and business is business. Since the theme stayed on point throughout, it felt coherent and easy to digest. Thanks!
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I posted my comment. It registered as anonymous. I don’t know why. But this was my comments.
I enjoyed this piece. The theme was consistent. Travel invites randomness. Perhaps not. People are met that are helpful, and you pay it forward. We have a common humanity which when noticed destroys ‘otherness.’ You’re helpfulness was appreciated and provided you with meaning based on your kindness. Travel is mind opening, and business is business. Since the theme stayed on point throughout, it felt coherent and easy to digest. Thanks!
Peace, Maury Lee
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Nice as usual. Glad your chanr contacts got some help.through you.
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You are a poet & philosopher! Excellent read..S
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Really enjoyed your mail & my memoir with Dangote days re surfaced in my mind. Almost 10 years back we enjoyed the similar situation in Lagos / Lekki.
Thanks for sharing
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Great read sir. Thought after a long hiatus. Look forward to more !
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Anand, beautifully written….the succinctness does not rob it of the story and the human relationships come out vividly…….
Suggesting a new title, actually a wordplay:
“In Lagos, Ethos and Pathos!”
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Beautifully written. While reading the story takes us to the very place of your experience and helps us visualise the often overlooked side of humans that is humanity, helping people connect with each other.
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Great to have you back. It had been a long time since i last read anything on this blog and now, it brings back a lot of memories and muster a coming back for my own blog as well.
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Lovely encounters. Serendipity. All one. Thank you.
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Very well narrated. It is very how life is you are destined to make the encounter happen between two individuals in a west african country. Enjoyed your blog
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Dear Aanand . As I read th blog I could feel myself being part of the scene. I particularly like how a small, commonplace situation in a strange place can turn out to be an interesting and even rewarding experience. I love your style of writing…”May never make an obscene amount of money. But will sleep well”. It is your eyes that perceive and heart that receives what life brings to you as you walk your path. I see you as an artist who paints all these scenes in the mind and on paper.
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Wow Anand. Having worked and travelled in Africa, I not only visualised the places but also felt the fear of being mugged while you waited for your ride. Though I was never mugged and infact met some wonderful Africans
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*Loved your Lagos piece Anand* and can vibe totally as I coincidentally visited Lagos and Kaduna(further north)atleast twice on Exports although much earlier.
I liked your wrap-up on Emotions–” _The identity that drowns in them is._ “🤝👏👏👏
It’s tough not to be swamped. There is so much potential yet an undergrowth of political swamps for ordinary people to struggle through amidst attacks of terrorism.
Great respect,yet empathy too for a country that produces sprinters(as Kenya produces marathoners)but struggles to right itself into steady,peaceful growth.🙏🙏🤔😫
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“It’s truly amazing and radiates such positive vibes.”
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Hmm…good stuff. You make business sound almost reasonable and pleasant.
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What a lovely story Ananda ji – they might call it paying it forward and we might call it working it backward to repay our rnas…..but ultimately it is a moment of love and care that moves the world forward….serendipity is simply intent manifesting without reason intruding I guess…..
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